Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Goodbye, Farewell, Auf Weidersehen, Until I see you again

My sweet mother-in-law passed away this evening from complications of Alzheimer's. Even though we've been expecting the call, it still came as a bit of a shock. I don't know how you ever truly prepare yourself for news like this, even when you know it's coming.

Isn't it sad that one of the first thoughts that ran through my mind was that I needed to go ahead and create her memorial before someone else created it? None of her children or other in-laws would think of creating it. I'm the one who loves family history.

So, even though her funeral arrangements are to be determined, I created her FindAGrave memorial. I'll update it with a brief bio and the name of the cemetery where she will be buried as soon as my sister-in-law gives me the information.

Why did I do that? Because there are folks who jump ahead of family, who cull names and obituaries from funeral home websites before the grieving family can get back from the funeral home after making arrangements. Errors propagate as these folks don't know the deceased and obituaries often contain errors.

Some of the memorial creators are either unwilling to make updates or are too overwhelmed by the sheer volume of memorials they have created to make updates. FindAGrave has tried to help by implementing automatic updates, but those can be overridden by the memorial manager. Yet, when the error is in the bio section, the memorial manager is the one who controls the updates.

Rest in peace, Maggie.